The goal in life isn't to become some calm, zen, perfectly put-together version of yourself. It's being able to show up as your actual self. All of it. Here's what happens when you're dysregulated: you're either performing a version of yourself that feels safe, or you're completely shut down and unavailable. NEITHER ONE is actually you. When you regulate your nervous system, you get to be the full, messy, hilarious, slightly unhinged human you actually are. You stop apologizing for taking up spa